Reflection is a healthy part of growth in life. When we look back to our pasts & take a close look at who we used to be, not only do we see how far we've come but we can recognize the most important parts of the journey. Reflection allows us to learn from everything that life has either handed us politely or thrown quite forcefully at us. With that in mind, here are two of the Choctawk bloggers' takes on their high school selves in the form of letters.
So you want to go to college but you don't have a ideas for a major...well then, I've got a story for you.
Once upon a time there was a high schooler who needed to make a lot of big decisions & that freaked her out big time. Making life-altering choices such as choosing a college felt daunting when she had no idea what direction (literally or figuratively) she wanted to go in life. She felt like the unknown was far too close for comfort, & it overwhelmed the planner in her. While her doctor-aspiring friends were applying to colleges with the best pre-med programs & her future-architect-friends found schools suited to their needs, she felt as though she had nothing to go on at all in the college decision-making process. However, by the grace of God & the advice of a few people, she ended up at a school that she loves &, after some time, studying a subject she also loves.
I graduate college in close to thirty days, which is both exciting and terrifying. It's cliche, but it's seriously so hard for me to believe that I'm a senior. I feel like I went to orientation last month, or even just declared my major a few weeks ago. But yet, here I am, sitting in the library working on my capstone project. I've learned that the life of a senior is really different from that of an underclassmen, but it's not something that's talked about very often. Today, I want to invite you guys into the life of a senior, because, whether you're about to graduate high school or finish your sophomore year, you'll be here one day, and I want to give you an idea of what it's like.
But what if your passions & your talents don't quite line up quite perfectly? Or what if you're incredible at a wide variety of things (people like that really do exist, I promise) & you're also passionate about them all? Or maybe if you just simply can't quite make up your mind about what to do. That's why there's such thing as a double major!
According to the Myers-Briggs (and my everyday life), I'm hyper-introverted, which means that time spent around a lot of people is exhausting for me. Like, there's a scale that rates you from super-introverted to super-extroverted, and I'm about three ticks away from being as introverted as you can be (Please, get all introvert stereotypes out of your brain). But, during my first two years at MC, I didn't really know what to do about that. I found myself irritable, exhausted, and spread thin, and I didn't know why. I paid more attention to what I needed to do, what I should do, and what my friends wanted me to do, more than I paid attention to what I needed. Then, I had a breakdown (you can read about it here), and I knew that something had to change.
Thankfully, I was (and am) surrounded by an incredible support system, I have a great church, and a wonderful therapist. Through hard conversations, long days, and a lot of trial and error, I began learning what it looks like to love myself well. It's been over two years since I really started my journey of self care, but the change that's been made in those two years is ridiculous. I've learned so much about myself, wellness in general, and what it looks like to set myself up to love others really well. And, not to brag, but my roommate recently called me the "Master of Self Care."
Like I said, though, I had to learn these things the hard way, and today, I'm hoping to keep your self-care journey from being as hard as mine was. Today, I want to give you an introduction to what it looks like to prioritize your self care, because, I promise, you are more than worth taking good care of.
Get to Know Yourself
I think it's easy to forget that as we grow, we change, and with that, our needs, likes, dislikes, desires, and more change with us. Not only that, but we are each a unique person with individual emotional, mental, and physical needs. We're worth getting to know, yes, by other people, but first and foremost, by ourselves. For me, the first step in learning self-care was to get to know myself. A good way to go about this is to take personality tests, like the Myers-Briggs or the Enneagram that will allow you to learn about yourself in really cool ways.
Another way to do this is to go to counseling, where you're given an hour of time to talk about yourself and receive guidance from a trained professional. Really, the goal of getting to know yourself is to increase your self awareness, or to better know what your individual needs are in your everyday life, so that you can do what you can to meet those needs for yourself.
Make a List of Things You Love
This may sound trivial, but it's important. The things we love, be it our favorite food, hobby, movie, or place to travel are part of what make us who we are. But, when life gets busy, it's super easy to look over those things. Make a list of the things you love to do, eat, see, watch, explore, whatever, and then make time to do those things. It's important to do the things that bring us joy, make us feel more human, and give us a break from the "have to's" of life. It could be anything from going for a run, cooking a good meal, doing something creative, reading for fun, or even just taking a nap. Make a list, be it mental or physical, and remember the things that make you happy.
Rearrange Your Schedule, Prioritize What's Important
Remember when I said that I'm a hyper-introvert? Well, before I paid attention to my self-care and didn't give a flip about loving myself well, I would seldom give myself the chance to be alone. After I realized just how introverted I was and how much I needed that alone time, I began scheduling a time everyday to be alone so that I could recharge and think. Between classes, homework, jobs, and other obligations, it's important to take time for ourselves. Schedule yourself some time to do those things you listed out earlier. Make sure you give yourself time to rest, whether that means physical rest or just mental and emotional rest.
Say Yes & No
I used to think that, if I had free time, I needed to schedule something to fill it. I said yes to everything, and never really realized that it was okay to say no if I needed to. A big part of self-care is realizing what is good to say yes to, and what's okay to skip out on. Yes, there are the things that we have to do, like going to class and showing up to work, and sticking to our commitments is important, but if you don't want to go to a social event, or you don't want to have another coffee date this week, it's simple: don't.
I wrote more about this last semester, and you can read it here.
Take Care of Yourself
In reality, this is the heart of self-love and self-care, but I feel like I still need to outline what it really means. In college, it's so easy not to take care of ourselves. We can eat junk, only get a little sleep, never exercise, forget to spend one on one time with Jesus, and ignore the things that give us life. But guys, we can't. It's impossible to love others well if we aren't loving ourselves well. Our performance academically and socially suffers when we neglect self-care. If you get nothing else from this blog, read this: Everything in your life will improve if you make self-care a priority. So, do it. Listen to your body, your mind, and your emotions and figure out what you need. Eat better, get some rest, sleep eight hours a night, spend solid time with your best friends. I promise, no one has ever regretted taking better care of themselves.
I know that this has been a lot, but the things I mentioned in this blog are only the tip of the iceberg. Self-care and self-love are non-negotiably connected, and I believe that a big part of growing up is learning what self-care looks like for each of us.
As the semester winds down and the stress levels increase, take some time to love yourself well. Let yourself sleep in before you go spend hours in the library. Eat at your favorite restaurant at the end of a long week. Go for a walk. Take the time to love yourself well, and everything will change for the better.
*Bonus* 5 Easy Ways to Love Yourself Well this Week:
- Buy yourself flowers.
- Go to sleep before 10pm.
- Make a list of things you're thankful for.
- Call your best friend.
- Go eat at your favorite restaurant.
Ever wondered what it's like to be in nursing school? Personally, I am perfectly content in the History & Foreign Language Departments, but since I have several friends in nursing school, I've always been curious as to what goes on in Cockroft Hall, the building that houses the prestigious Mississippi College Nursing School. So, I talked to one such friend named Haley Hanks to learn a bit more about the lives of nursing school students. Here's the window she gave me into what it means to be in nursing school, as well as several tips for how to deal with everything that comes your way as a nursing student!